Self care isn’t all bubble baths and candles. Often it’s about being tough and having firm boundaries. It’s about saying “no”
No, I don’t want more cake
No, I can’t help you
No, I don’t agree it’s all my fault
No, I don’t want to work for free
No, I don’t think it’s selfish
No, there’s nothing wrong with seeing a man crying
No, I can’t forgive you
Every “no” makes a little bit of space for you to say “yes” to something else – to your mental health, to your self-esteem, to your joy
Saying no also make space for people who are drawn to your clarity and respect your boundaries. People who don’t want you to be anything more – or less – than you are
Meandering leads to perfection 