Do pause

In the world of email and instant messaging, we demand ever fast responses from each other, and often it’s the speed of the response we value rather than it’s quality.

In essence,a pause is breaking your rhythm-whatever that rhythm might look like

Taking a pause allows us to appreciate a different kind of music, too. Composer John Cage’s notorious piece 4’33” consists of a musician sitting without playing anything for precisely four minutes and thirty-three seconds. The result? Instead of an empty silence, the audience can suddenly hear the background sounds they usually ignore. They spend those four minutes alive to the subtle music of everyday life. 

I post the machine simply stops, human beings on the other hand, start to do something else. Taking a breath for instance or started to invest her attention somewhere else new. She doesn’t stop she starts new.

Ironically although pause involves taking a time out from the relentless pursuit of our goals. It also can set us on the road to achieving them. New ideas are fragile can crush under the way of our everyday concerns. Just like  crops you hope to harvest one day, the ground that hunches growing must have left fallow some of the time.

It’s not just a creativity that needs a pause to grow, though, our relationships do so. Whether we are interacting with the loved one or a colleague, it can be difficult to fully understand the other person’s perspective-what do she really think and what does she want in any given situation. If you want to deepen your relationship try talking less and pause more.

One of the best things about the pause is-how easy are to take. Other techniques that enable reflections-meditation or yoga require instruction to get right. But pause is something we instinctly know how to do. We can immediately weave them into our daily routines too. Daily pauses don’t have to be long to be worthwhile-just the 2 minutes or even 2 seconds can make all the difference.

A short pause can also be valuable when you’re trying to make a judgment call. When someone asks you a question, you’ll give a much better answer if you give a couple minutes yourself before replying. That can be easier said than done though. We often experience instant mental pressure to respond immediately. This pressure has its roots in addiction that has gripped our modern society. We are hooked on being busy. Asking ourselves to slow down for even just a few minutes, is like trying to wean ourselves from a powerful drug.

To replace your habit of being constantly busy-you need to distract yourself with another habit instead. An easy habit to adopt this for purpose is drawing in breath before responsing to anything. When someone says something to you shift your focus on stomach, and relax the muscles there. Now breathe in, but instead of just using your chest to breathe, let the air go all the way down, so that your stomach expands. Once you completed this breath, you’ve also taken the pause and you’re ready to respond.

Being constantly busy is lazy. Why? Because once you are in a constant flurry of activity-you miss the big picture, you avoid making big changes in your life. And avoidance is lazy.

Prepare your pause:

Choose the right location, spending time in areas of natural beauty helps you reconnect with your innermost self. And grant you the perspective and motivation you barely get from your everyday surroundings. It’s an added bonus that remote areas tend to have a poor cell phone reception. Because in order to truly pause, you need to step back from technology and all its demands from time. When you plan a pause try to leave room for unexpected to occur afterall when you enter a pause if you know what exactly you want then you get it all you’ve done is fullfill your expectations. Instead Setting yourself an intention rather a goal. When people leave themselves open like this they learn more during their pause.