How to have compassions

How to generate your compassions when needed.

Perhaps the moment we really need is when we’re experiencing aversions toward some behaviours, person or even culture, we can have any negative emotions toward anything,even toward the moon. Not saying having these emotions is wrong, after all, no one can control who or what you like or dislike, who you love who you don’t. And the good thing is, to dislike something you don’t need to also react in a negative way, you can still be kind but don’t approve the thing you dislike, as long as you injure nobody. ( Sometimes people get hurt because their own views or imaginations, that’s outside our control but we can always try our best to react properly, we can’t be passive because we are afraid to hurt anyone. Always choose to be proactive instead. Nobody is perfect forgive yourself if any mistakes you make, important thing is you reflect and learn from the experience)

So how does it work?

You first recognise your emotions,notice is a negative one. Understand that if you express it, it will hurt people no matter what, that’s not the thing you want to do, and by expressing your negative emotions, will bring you no good. You can dislike but still be kind and respectful. As if you are treating everybody equally regardless you disagree with sometimes. You can disapprove a person’s certain behaviour, but you never should deny that person as a whole, that’s not fair as well. Try to focus on the matter not the person, that’s the best way to avoid offending anyone.

The next step is to try to understand that person , to work out why he is doing this way. It’ll naturally generate all the necessary compassions you need once you start to understand everything. We sometimes lack of compassions not because we’re cold, because we just missed out this one important step. You never should feel to fake any compassions,that only will make you feel miserable, rather trying to understand is the sustainable way to really solve the problem once for all.

I also notice sometimes it is impossible to understand due to the nature of the event, like lack of information, possibilities, if so, you can’t have the real compassions perhaps in this case what you need to do is to tolerate first instead. Then try to avoid as soon as possible, as you shouldn’t let bad experiences last too long. Finding a way to avoid in most time it is within our control. If can’t avoid than you can try to understand. So always, no matter whichever situation it is you’ll be always well prepared.