The problems in our lives, there are merely perceptions, everything they are the way they are and altogether they exist in a harmony, they themselves have no problems, but only when we think they are, by realising this concept, shouldn’t we queit our minds first and only do what within our control ? When we accept the way things are, we no longer need to bewail anything that doesn’t go our ways..if we don’t like something we can do things to change ourselves, rather beating the wall in hope it becomes a door, if we don’t like the boss we can develop ourselves and change the job, your boss isn’t the problem, rather the reality is merely you the one who is not fine with him, in this case, either should you let yourself like this job or work out ways to leave the job. Even you’re one of the most successful richest ones in this world,you still can’t eliminate all the frustations in your life.. it’s not like the more successful you are the less chances will you get upset…you’ll always get upset if only you let yourself .
By understanding this, whatver happens to you, you no longer need to react emotionally anymore..like someone’s mistakes, misconductions, even they disgust you, but you know they are just part of this universe, remember without any sorrows you won’t feel any joys at all, all we need is to accept, and bewailing is unhelpful, waste of your energy, not a thing a wise person should be doing, rather you should focus on things you enjoy doing, that is what you can do, and your freedom. Renounciation is one previlige we all have, why not use it. No matter what kind of daunting situation get yourself into as long as you still can breathe. you always have the choice to refuse to give a shit and stop reacting emotionally,
The conflicts we experience in our lives, they are all caused by our individual perceptions, because of the different lifestyles, backgrounds, educations of each one of us, it is impossible for us to interpret exactly the same as others assume the way we should. To solve this problem, probably the best way we can do is to understand better, from both sides, to understand yourself and the others as well, you can try to mirror the situation, in other words, put yourself into other’s shoes, this method will bring you the compassions you need, and compassions is the most effective medicine to cure our wounds.
One thing you should remember is to have your own values and philosophy, and stand on your conscience, in other words you need your boundaries, only by such a way, can you finally become invincible, to equip yourself with the ability to avoid or to recover from any mental breakdowns in your life. Take the whole responsibility for your own life, and free yourself from blaming the other’s fault, even we know now the fact is everyone is enough, at any given moment, all we need is to accept the way things are.
Meandering leads to perfection 